Family comes first – there will be times when you will be completely taken aback by something someone you grew up under the roof with would say or do to you. There will be times when someone in your immediate family will be gladder to criticize you than to care to be there for you. It is inevitable. Learn to let go of it and love them anyway. But, do NOT ever apologize for listening to your heart. Everrr!That said, when you do apologize to someone because you value them more than your ego and theirs, it can be and it will be perceived as a ‘realization’ on your part for YOUR mistake. So, apologize only when you truly feel sorry for saying or doing something. NEVER say sorry only because you want to save a relationship. Honestly, it’s not worth it. While reaching out to someone to say that you miss them or to explain to them that they hurt you might appear to be a wise thing to do, it makes you vulnerable. What is a wiser thing to do is learning that it is not your job to fix everything that goes wrong. It is not your job to clear every misunderstanding. When a relationship goes sour, it is NOT entirely your job to enrich it. It is a two-way street and there is no reason for you alone to suffer silently because you feel that’s the only way to save the bond. Do yourself a favor and get out of it with whatever little grace is left in it. People come around sooner or later when they really care.
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
Don’t be surprised if most people have no idea about what you’re going through and many of those who do are secretly delighted about your problems. It happens. This too shall pass is the mantra! This is going to sound weird but someday you’ll know what I mean when I say, “take pride in your problems! At least you can afford to have them!” Moreover, they’re a part of who you are. Just have faith… in yourself more than anybody else.
Some of your closest friends will gossip about you behind your back. Don’t let it hurt you. Strangely, those are the same ones who try to be YOU and suck at it! Remember, imitation is the greatest form of flattery. =) People who don’t have the courage and the decency to give you an honest opinion on your face are the ones who resort to bad-mouthing you secretly. If anything, feel sorry for them and count your blessings!
When you go out of your way and help someone, it will usually be forgotten. Don’t let that stop you from helping someone if that’s what you feel like doing. Instead, feel good about fact that you are always willing to lend a hand. There are a very few people like you.
So, be proud of yourself!