” Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured “

funny-anger-quotes-images-3-ee18a8cbBitterness is like cancer , it eats upon the host but Anger is like Fire ,it burns it all clean.

One of the unhealthiest emotions Human beings have is Anger . It destroys our ability to think clearly. 

A single word spoken in anger can leave an impression on a person’s heart that may remain for a long time, and has the ability to ruin the beauty of any relationship.

A famous sage once said, “How can there be peace on earth if the hearts of men are like volcanoes?”   

If a person is at  peace from within and is free from anger , only then can he live in harmony with others.

How  can we create that sense of peace within ourselves? 

It starts with the realization that we do have the choice to think and feel the way we want to. If we look at what it is that makes us angry we might discover there is nothing that has the power to make us feel this way.  We ourselves allow people  or situations to trigger our anger—

The anger is that emotion which come out in form of our reaction to any event or person . But because we are so used to that we react on everything thing in our surroundings. We don’t choose how we want to feel and  respond , we just react instantly and inappropriately, leaving ourselves with angry feelings.  

Have you ever heard someone saying: “I really hate it when you speak like that to me?” Or how about, “How many times do I have to tell you to do it like this?”  One lesson I have learned is that, how much we try we  can never control circumstances, people or situations, as they are constantly changing.  The only thing we can control is the way we choose to respond.  Only we can increase our capacity to tolerate; only we can develop our ability to understand; and only we can nurture our love for others regardless of whether one day they praise us and the next they defame us .

Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.

Modern-day life comes with a whole lot of challenges. In facing these we have should see every interaction within our world as part of one large drama or game. And in this drama, every single individual has their own unique part to play.  Rather  than spending our time keeping an eye on what others are doing, we can begin to use our energy to play our own part to the best of our ability. We cannot possess or own the behavior of others, because if we do so this  will ultimately lead to conflict.  Instead we need to practice the understanding that regardless of whatever action a person may be doing, according to their own part within the play there is some reason why they are behaving in that way.  Therefore we should try not to jump to conclusions too easily; and rather than trying to control other person’s behavior, we should focus on our own  energies and our  actions. 

What is so wrong in judging  others actions? 

There is a danger that if we become too concerned with their activity, we may begin to feel anger toward that person, which may lead to dislike for them.   We put them into some kind of box, and fix a label on them. Then whenever we come into contact with that person, we will see him or her in the light of their past mistake. But in doing this, we are effectively imprisoning them in their past actions.  However if we allow the person to grow out of their own mistake then, sooner or later, it is possible that person will change. 

This concept of life being a drama can help us to detach ourselves from what’s happening around us, and this detachment or space is of great help in learning not to make judgments so quickly about others.  If we create a small space, a healthy space between our self and the drama of life, we find that space acts like a buffer. Neither will we jump out and grab someone’s throat, nor will the drama of life be able to suddenly grab us .   

When we are angry, we have no self-control.  At that moment we are in a state of internal chaos, and the anger can be a very destructive force.  

It is often said that anger can be a useful thing.   People say, “Look at all the problems in the world, surely unless someone got angry about it nothing would happen?”   It reminds me of the story about an old man sitting by a river and talking to a group of his disciples. His hand was stretched out behind him and an insect came crawling along and bit him badly.  As it did so, it slipped and fell into the river.  This old man looked behind him and saw the insect struggling in the river, so he picked it up and placed it back on the ground.  A few minutes later, the same insect crawled over to his hand and bit him on the finger, and again slipped over and fell into the river.  The old man looked round, picked it up, and placed it back on the ground.  When this happened a third time, one of his disciples said to him, “Master why do you do this?  The insect bites you and yet you save it.  Why do you not let it drown and it then it won’t be able to bite you?” He replied “It is in the insect’s nature to bite, it is in my nature to save”.  Similarly, someone’s nature might be to criticize, or to backbite, or even to challenge us.  Yet that is completely out of our hands.  We can only do what it is that we have to do.  We can’t justify a negative action by saying, “Oh well, you do the same thing too.”   If we say that, then we are saying, “I will only grow and change when you decide to grow and change, it’s in your hands.”  But can growth ever happen like that?  If we wait for each other to change it is likely we will be waiting an extremely long time. 

Just as the form of water can be changed from solid to liquid to gas, so to the energy which was previously being used to express and feed anger, can also be changed to the force behind the expression of determination or courage instead.  Rather than being angry with someone to prove a point, we can learn to be assertive. Assertiveness contains respect for oneself, whereas anger shows respect for neither the self nor others.

Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it…Don’t allow his anger to become your anger

There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Normally, we look for happiness from external factors like objects, relationships, achievements(success),name/fame, power. Our belief system has created this dependency. This is mind conditioning from past experiences. This way we postpone happiness. Physical comfort, but mind in pain, happiness gone.

Physical discomfort, but mind peaceful, happiness is possible.

Very powerful, successful, wealthy, healthy, educated persons are unhappy. Persons without all this can be happy.We want to be happy depending on getting marks/grades, job, relationship, success, money,name/fame, car, house, behavior of others etc. These are just stimuli which create a response in the mind depending on our mind programming. We create thoughts and feelings, not the objects.Our reaction/response creates thoughts of happiness/unhappiness. Different persons respond differently to the same stimulus. Happiness without or irrespective of the stimulus is possible, if  we understand that we create the thoughts. We are the programmer of our life.

Problems and challenges will be there. To despair or deal with them is our choice. Failure/success not in my hand, our thoughts and feelings are in our hand.

For any incident reaction is automatic, response is by choice.It is not just reaching the destination that matters, it’s the quality of the journey that counts.

Destination/goals(marks/grades, job, position, relationship) are important, otherwise we become passive, directionless. The goals may take days, months, years. While performing the duty, we are not enjoying since we are anxious/stressful about the future. If  we see some threats, competition, we  try to manipulate, compromise on values and principles. This delays happiness because it creates anger,stress, anxiety during the journey. It takes a toll on health, relationships, mental peace. So, we have paid a heavy price for happiness. Painful journey. We are not just postponing happiness, we are creating unhappiness all the way. It multiplies because we are becoming emotionally weaker due to pains bruised further, easily hurt, irritated. Affects health.

Our priorities are only success, not family, friends, health, society, country.  Failure deplete energy, lowers self-esteem. We are not able to face others and ourselves.

Life is based on 4 factors: Physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual. Balance in all  is  required for happiness.

I Have To Be Happy First Practice this. Do not change response based on the nature of the stimulus. Be original. If courtesy is your quality, don’t change even if other person is rude. Because you like to be courteous. Just take one quality(courteous, humble, sweet, loving, happy) and stick to it no matter what(how, where, when).We take near and dear, poor, weaker ones for granted and are rude with them and sweet to even rude but powerful persons. Do good without expectations. Your reward, feeling good during action itself.

We pass the blame to our mind/ego. Our mind/ego is our responsibility. We can’t control our mind, but want to control others mind. Doing things simply as a duty makes both unhappy. Relationships are not just actions but these are energies exchanged during interaction. Duty is responsibility, but do it with happiness.

For duties today, our focus is always on action A, B,C, not on the state of mind during these actions.Studies/job is duty, but what is the feeling while doing it: calm, peaceful, happy, or worried, anxious,angry. The former is enjoyable, while the latter is tiresome, painful. Action with healthy emotions is beautiful, otherwise painful.

How to be emotionally healthy

We can’t make each other happy, We make ourselves happy. We think CGPA, degree, job, spouse, children,friends will make us happy. Even God can’t make you happy. We have temporary mind diversions to divert attention from emotional pain. It is like drugs.

 The solution is Just be aware of thoughts

Being natural(doing what we like) makes us happy. It requires least effort. Being natural is peace, love, happiness. But we must be aware of these natural qualities. It doesn’t take years to change mindset. Just one thought of awareness. There are so many triggers we face every day. It is not the trigger but the -ve reaction it creates within us that disturbs us. If we just accept/respect the triggers, then we are happy. Everyone has the same will power. It depends on how much we use it. Same with every good human quality. The tragedy is that we are not even aware of our original qualities. It is like we have fortune in the locker, but beg for money/happiness from others. First, we must know that we have a fortune in our locker, then we must make efforts to open it. It is in the mind, we have the key. Only we can open. Others can only guide.

Just one +ve thought and many -ve thoughts won’t work. Consistent +ve thoughts are required. Not just words, thoughts must be +ve. I(You) can do it. I have faith in myself(you). Tell yourself and others repeatedly. I can be happy. I have faith in myself.

Harmony between thoughts, words and action. Thought energy travels faster. Thoughts are energy, vibration. We can’t catch other’s thoughts, but we feel +ve/-ve vibrations.

Every human being is originally pure, affectionate, peaceful, blissful and powerful. Shift your focus from I want happiness, I want power, to I am happy, I am powerful. Share love,peace, happiness with all. +ve/-ve infections spread automatically.

Thinking is like water flowing. You can’t stop it, you can channelized it. We have a choice.

-ve/+ve energy affects everyone around us. It is like a perfume. Everyone smells it.

We produce 40-50 thousand thoughts per day , mostly without being aware of the quality. If you are a CEO of a company producing these many products and not even aware of the quality, what will happen to the company?

There are Four Types of Thoughts:

1. Pure, +ve, selfless, powerful, no expectations(no hurt).

2. Negative: Resentment, hatred, criticism, anger- Large no.

3. Necessary Thoughts(Neutral): These are about actions/duties

4. Waste Thoughts: About things not in my control(past and future). Large nos. Huge Wastage of time and energy. We don’t accept people and situations in the present moment. A person can get tired doing nothing(-ve and waste thoughts). He would have been less tired if he had played.

Psychiatrist tells us that 80 % of our thoughts are about past+15 % are about future. So in 95 % thoughts there is nothing +ve. There are 25-30 thoughts per minute, but we speak only 4-5 sentences/minute. It is not enough to have just good action or good words. Thoughts have far more influence. Every thought affects the entire system, every cell of the body. Many ailments are psychosomatic these days.

Think Believe. The Rest Will Follow 

Our original nature must be reflected in every role we play. Today, we are changing personality for every role. Hence, relations have become fragile. One ego talks to other. Original actor sleeping inside. Concentrate on your role, not others. Don’t write their script. It is wastage of time and energy. Write own script. At least you can implement that.

When we notice a tap running, we immediately close it. The same thing happens with mind when we are aware of the wastage of time and energy. The health of the body reflects the quality of thoughts. If someone cheats us and we  lose money, we are  not responsible for that loss. But if we  lose our peace, we are  responsible.  Anger is like a burning coal we want to throw at others. They may be unaffected, we surely are adversely affected.

Nurture pure, loving, forgiving thoughts. I don’t forgive others, I forgive myself.



Step by Step Easy Rasmalai Recipe

Rasmalai  is a delicious and lip-smacking dessert made with homemade cottage cheese (paneer). It’s super yummy and has an incredible melt-in-your-mouth texture that will leave you craving for more! It’s egg-free and gluten-free too.The term Rasmalai is made up of two words – Ras+malai, where ‘ras’ means syrup or juice and ‘malai’ means cream. Together it creates a luscious treat that makes each and every bite of this rasmalai truly irresistible!!

If you are not familiar with this treat then let me first give you a heads up. Rasmalai is the Indian version of soft and spongy flattened paneer (cottage cheese) balls that are soaked in thickened saffron milk and garnished with silvered dry nuts.

Now, onto the recipe!

The first step that involves preparation of paneer balls is somewhat similar to rasgulla recipe. Soft and spongy paneer balls are made just the way rasgullas are made.

Paneer balls are not difficult to make; it just takes a little bit of time, practice, and patience. Once you have mastered the art of making crack-free paneer balls, I’m confident that the next steps will be easy for you.

2 Litre Full cream milk
1/4 cup Lemon Juice or vinegar


600 ml Full cream milk (about 2.5 cups)
1.25 cups Condensed / Milk Powder
1/3 cup Sugar
3 tablespoon Thinly sliced dry nuts (almonds,pistachios)
1/8 teaspoon Saffron strands
1/2 teaspoon Eliachi Powder (Cardamon Powder)


2 cup Water
1 cup Sugar
1 teaspoon Rose water or Kewra essence

Boil milk in a heavy bottom pan. TIP – Always use full cream milk to make paneer. The fat content in full milk makes the best paneer.
When the milk becomes frothy and bubbles start to form on top that’s the time to add vinegar/lemon juice. TIP – Wait for milk to get bubbly before adding the acid. This will result in perfect chenna/paneer.
Pour in vinegar/lemon juice.
Slowly mix vinegar/lemon juice in the milk and milk will curdle.
When the whey/liquid in curdle milk turns to pale green in color, take the pan off the flame.
Meanwhile line a strainer with muslin cloth.
Quickly strain paneer. TIP – Letting it sit will result in hard and chewy rasmalai.
Wash paneer under cold water to get rid of vinegar/lemon juice taste. TIP – This will wash away all the taste of acid from paneer.
Squeeze paneer and allow the water to drain.
You can also hang paneer/chenna for 20- 30 minutes until the water stops dripping. TIP – This step is important. If water is not drained well from paneer, rasmalai pieces will start to disintegrate in sugar syrup.

Remove paneer from cloth. Paneer should feel crumbly but moist.


Start kneading the paneer like a dough.
Use your whole palm and fingers to knead paneer. It will take somewhere between 9-10 minutes to knead it into a smooth dough. TIP – Knead paneer with your hands. Have tried kneading it in a food processor but the result was not satisfactory.
Take paneer dough in your hand.
Squeeze it tight. It should not feel sticky at all. In fact it should feel creamy and roll smoothly in between your palms. TIP – Squeeze and press in between your palms couple of times before rolling it like a ball. This will prevent cracks.
Gently press in between your palms and flatten the balls. Set it aside and repeat the process with rest of the paneer.
Combine water and sugar in a pan. Add essence of your choice. Bring it a boil.
Slowly add flattened paneer pieces to the syrup. Do not overcrowd the pan.TIP – Make sure there is enough room for the paneer balls to expand during boiling. Leave some space for the pieces to float. Reduce the flame to MEDIUM LOW.
Slowly the pieces will start to float up.
When all the pieces float to the surface..
Cover the pan with the lid and let it simmer for 3-4 minutes on a medium low flame.
Flatten paneer pieces will swell in size. Take it off the flame and allow it to cool.
When comfortable to touch, take a flattened paneer piece and squeeze out all the syrup. Press gently.
When all the syrup is pressed out, paneer pieces will come back to its original shape. Set it aside.


Onto the final step. Assemble ingredients.
In a heavy bottomed pan, add milk and bring it to a boil. Add in sugar, saffron strands and milk powder / Condensed Milk.
Whisk until well blended.
Continue boiling at a medium flame stirring continuously. Stir in thinly sliced nuts and mix. Keep stirring and boil the milk for 20-25 minutes. Milk will thicken to a desired consistency – neither to thick nor too liquid.
Carefully drop in flattened paneer balls.
Allow the flatten paneer balls to simmer in hot syrup for 1-2 minutes.
Take it off the flame, cover and let the paneer pieces soak in the syrup.

Transfer it to a big bowl and allow it to chill. Tastes better when chilled.

Peace is not the absense of Conflict , but the ability to cope with it – Mahatma Gandhi 

Conflict is an inevitable part of our lives, but how we view and handle it can turn it from being an unpleasant experience into one where we learn and grow.
Interpersonal conflict is a fact of life and can arise in almost any sphere, from organisations through to personal relationships. Learning to resolve it effectively, in a way that does not increase your stress levels, is therefore important for everyone

We live in a world where conflict is now the norm.

I think that we’ve lost our inner strength and the ability to exercise what we understand to be right and true. We know that fighting doesn’t get us anywhere and quarrelling doesn’t get us what we want – it just creates a lot of negative energy – but we just can’t help ourselves.

Everything begins with ourselves. If I’m fighting with other people, I’m battling with something inside myself. Perhaps I’m not able to put into practice something I believe in . This inner battle with oneself makes me lose my inner strength and value. When I’m unhappy with myself, it comes out in my interaction with others. When a group of people are unhappy, it comes out on a bigger scale. The more understanding and peaceful we become, the more accepting and loving we become, and we reflect that in our relationships.

We cannot gain internal strength without spirituality.  My strength lies in my awareness of myself as a spiritual being – a living, thinking being, the essence of peace, of love and happiness.  The more I experience this, the more I experience strength inside myself. To be quiet doesn’t mean to run away; it means to evaluate my thoughts and feelings before I express them.

We eat to survive but if I want to survive mentally in a happy state, I have to feed myself with silence, positive thoughts, the qualities that I have inside me. I have to be conscious of this every day, as many times as I can, and to build up my inner strength.

Being on a spiritual path is a great blessing in the process of reconciliation—which is another way of saying effectively managing conflict

 The only person you can be certain of changing is yourself….If your attitude is that everything would be fine if other people changed, you are in a weak, dependent position.

-Thomas Crum, Aikido Master and Author of “The Magic of Conflict”

The conflicts, changes and processes of life you go through with others are also forms of purification.  They are the cotton, wool or silk you weave into your relationships.  They become the yarn you use for fashioning the garment of your unique mission and path.  The substance of your yarn is also woven into the lives of others because you walked with them for a while.

The universe will send us stronger and stronger wake up calls until we realize the necessity of personal transformation.  Change is inevitable.  Either we learn to desire change or see it as an opportunity to create something new, or we will find ourselves in enough pain that we experience no other choice but to


This is what u can do during conflict: 

  • Make prayer an integral part of the process
  • As soon as tension is recognized, get together with the people involved to attempt to resolve the issues. The earlier this is done, the better. The further around the conflict cycle you allow things to go, the harder they will be to settle
  • When you have been wrong, admit it, and ask forgiveness. Attempting to hide a mistake or wrong will create a larger problem and will destroy people’s trust in you.
  • Forgiveness is one way to survive and live together in a way that acknowledges our connectedness.  It has the potential to transform our future.One of the most important principles to consider is that forgiving is an act of the will.  First you must choose to forgive and then you must choose your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support and remind you of your choice to forgive.
  •   Understand that you cannot change others, and that you CAN choose to change yourself.
  • Renew and strengthen your spiritual connection to your Higher Self and seek guidance.  Communicate, listen, forgive and seek forgiveness.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

-Mahatma Gandhi

Karma : Men are not punished for their sins, but by them 

Most people think karma is fate, or something closely tied to it. You’ve probably heard someone say “She must have some bad/good karma!” or something like it beforeIf you do the right thing, good things will come back to you as reward. If you do the wrong thing, bad things will come back to you as punishment.

Negative karma stays with you no matter how much good you do until it takes its full effect. But neither of these things are karma. There’s a mass misunderstanding about what karma really is.

I believe in this quote by Barbara O’Brien

The word “karma” means “action,” not “fate.”  karma is an energy created by willful action, through thoughts, words and deeds. We are all creating karma every minute, and the karma we create affects us every minute.

It’s common to think of “my karma” as something you did in your last life that seals your fate in this life, but this is not real understanding. Karma is an action, not a result. Karma is the law of spiritual dynamics that can be related to every act in daily life. The word karma means action and the entire cycle of cause-effect
In mixing chemical elements, the reaction may be immediate or long delayed. This is no less true in the chemistry of living, as we bring together actions, thoughts and feelings. The result may follow at once or be postponed in accordance with obscure factors. Every negative thought, desire and action disturbs in some measure the equilibrium of the universe. Such disturbances ever seek to return to equilibrium through a process of re- adjustment. The operation of this law is as truly a moral law as it is a physical law, and can be directly observed as such. 

 By doing the wrong thing, you condition the mind for anger, discontent, dissatisfaction, and the like. By doing the right thing you condition the mind for peace, joy, harmony, and the like.

When we’re born, anger, discontent, dissatisfaction, peace, joy, harmony, as well as dozens of other mental formations are born in us. See these mental formations- these future emotions, feelings, and qualities- as seeds. 

Now imagine these seeds resting in the garden of your mind, your consciousness, constantly being either watered or neglected based on your intentional thoughts and actions. Depending on what thoughts, words, or actions you have, speak, or take you either water the bad seeds or you water the good ones.

These seeds eventually grow into buds. And each time you water one of these buds they grow. If you water one of these buds enough they’ll blossom into a flower- a powerful positive or negative force in your life. But it also works the opposite way. If you neglect and refrain from watering a flower it will wilt and eventually shrink back to a bud. And as long as you don’t water the bud, it won’t grow. The energy we give to these flowers is our karmic energy.

If the seeds and various flowers are mental formations such as anger and joy, and the water is your thoughts, words, and actions, then by seeking to think, speak, and act in good, positive, or “right” ways and avoiding thinking, speaking, and acting in bad, negative or “wrong” ways you’ll ultimately rid yourself of negative mental conditions and be able to find peace and joy in every moment of life.

Like energy attracts energy, we attract to ourselves those things and circumstances and people that are in vibrational harmony with our dominant, mental attitude, habitual thoughts and beliefs. 

The attractive power of any particular thought is determined by how often we have that thought and by the strength of the feelings or emotions associated with it. The more energy we give to a particular thought, the greater its power to attract its corresponding circumstance into our physical world. 

Thoughts have energy. Like physical energy, which has a positive or negative charge, so does the energy created by your thoughts. Each frequency or energy vibration. The energy of thought is either stored in physical structures or is transmitted into the universe, it never dies. 

Every thought interacts with the energy of the universe. Negative thought looks for other negative thought energies to bind with. Eventually a matrix of negative thought energy is created and forms a thought wave. These powerful negative thought waves manifest themselves in our lives. 

Positive thought energy also seeks out other positive energies. if we are source of positive thought energy postive and beneficial energy will return to us in many wonderful and unexpected ways. Again everything that happens in our life has a direct connection with the type of energy that we are charging the universe with. We alone are responsible for the type of energy created by our life. Becoming aware of the power of our own thoughts is the most important step. Being aware is the key. Once we are aware of the negative engeries in our life we can take measures to eliminate it

Karma shows us that we have the freedom to decide what happens to us. Karma isn’t this ever-present force which punishes our wrong actions and rewards our good deeds with earthly pleasures. It’s the very energy of intentional action in our lives which is wielded by us.

No matter what happened in the past, or what you’re going through right now, you can change your life if you just decide to. You’re free to experience the greatest things in life. But it’s up to you to take action. You define you.

You have the ability to change your own life. Sure, there are factors outside of karma, outside of your own actions that affect your life. But if you deepen your understanding of what true peace and happiness is, you’ll discover that no matter what’s going on around you, you have the ability to experience life fully..

Happiness isnt something we can Discover , Its a Trait that we cultivate

A popular quote by Henry David Thoreau: “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder “.

We all spend our lives carving for happiness. We all believe that as soon as we will get that job, as soon as we are in a great relationships, as soon as we buy that car , as soon as we buy that house , the gates will open and happiness will come rushing . Most people are misinformed. Happiness isn’t something that just happens, it’s something you need to actively pursue. True happiness doesn’t come from wealth or beauty or status or anything external, it comes from within.In order to find true happiness in life, we need to work on yourself and make a few adjustments to the way we live your life.

Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, but sometimes just out of reach. Understanding what works best for you is the first step in finding more of them.Some people claim that happiness is all in your DNA or bank account.

Here are the tips to find TRUE HAPPINESS

  • Don’t Rely On Other People to Make You Happy.
  • Be with Someone who makes you smile
  • Be Genuinely Happy for Other People.
  • Be Grateful , show Gratitute
  • Be Happy for others
  • Dont Keep Grudges
  • Let Go Things
  • Dont Hold on Pain for long Time let it go
  • Push yourself, not others
  • Love Yourself

Happiness and fulfillment in life isn’t achieved by having what you want, “Real Wealth, Happiness and Fulfillment” is achieved and experienced by wanting what you have.

Become aware of your creative power…consciously state your preferences…express sincere and heartfelt gratitude for your life now…Give thanks for already receiving your “preferences in advance…remain unattached from the outcome…remain open, aware, alert and take action that “feels” good to you on the ways and means which arrive…MOVE and take action and you WILL experience a life of fulfillment, joy, inner peace and limitless prosperity in each and every area of your life…certainly, without fail  and what would be “perceived” by many as effortlessly…..


Happiness isnt something we can Discover , Its a Trait that we cultivate