When we let go of what we are , we become what we might be , When we let go of what we have, we receive what we need


When something you wish for doesn’t happen, more other than not, it IS a blessing in disguise! 
You’ll know. I swear!

Family comes first – there will be times when you will be completely taken aback by something someone you grew up under the roof with would say or do to you. There will be times when someone in your immediate family will be gladder to criticize you than to care to be there for you. It is inevitable. Learn to let go of it and love them anyway. But, do NOT ever apologize for listening to your heart. Everrr!That said, when you do apologize to someone because you value them more than your ego and theirs, it can be and it will be perceived as a ‘realization’ on your part for YOUR mistake. So, apologize only when you truly feel sorry for saying or doing something. NEVER say sorry only because you want to save a relationship. Honestly, it’s not worth it.  While reaching out to someone to say that you miss them or to explain to them that they hurt you might appear to be a wise thing to do, it makes you vulnerable. What is a wiser thing to do is learning that it is not your job to fix everything that goes wrong. It is not your job to clear every misunderstanding. When a relationship goes sour, it is NOT entirely your job to enrich it. It is a two-way street and there is no reason for you alone to suffer silently because you feel that’s the only way to save the bond. Do yourself a favor and get out of it with whatever little grace is left in it. People come around sooner or later when they really care.

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

Don’t be surprised if most people have no idea about what you’re going through and many of those who do are secretly delighted about your problems. It happens. This too shall pass is the mantra! This is going to sound weird but someday you’ll know what I mean when I say, “take pride in your problems! At least you can afford to have them!” Moreover, they’re a part of who you are. Just have faith… in yourself more than anybody else.

Some of your closest friends will gossip about you behind your back. Don’t let it hurt you. Strangely, those are the same ones who try to be YOU and suck at it! Remember, imitation is the greatest form of flattery. =) People who don’t have the courage and the decency to give you an honest opinion on your face are the ones who resort to bad-mouthing you secretly. If anything, feel sorry for them and count your blessings!

When you go out of your way and help someone, it will usually be forgotten. Don’t let that stop you from helping someone if that’s what you feel like doing. Instead, feel good about fact that you are always willing to lend a hand. There are a very few people like you. 

So, be proud of yourself!

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When you discover true happiness you will find that you are wealthier beyond the dreams of kings

Real happiness means living a life of deep meaning and pure satisfaction.

“ 5 Essentials of Happiness that Lasts “ 

1. What in the world is happiness and how do I get it?

Happiness is a process that anyone can learn and follow.

When you trust the process you will see results. What is most important is that you absolutely CAN become happier regardless of where you are today.

Create your own positive reality.

In order to create your own positive reality, you must train your brain to focus on your strengths, your values and what works well in your life. When you do this, the neuro pathways in your brain physically change. Once the positive channels in your brain become thicker, focusing on the positive will become a habit which in turn helps you become happier.

Think of your brain like a flashlight: Shine it on WHAT works.

WHAT TO DO:

Every evening: Think back on your day and write about or share with a loved one the best part of your day, ask your loved one to do the same.

For example: Take time to reflect during dinner every evening.

HAPPINESS CAN BE LEARNED. Create your own reality.

2. Learn the art of reframing.

Reframing helps to strengthen the positive neuro-pathways in your brain and weaken the negative ones.

The way you experience your life is not through the situation itself but rather your own interpretation of the situation. Every event could have hundreds of different interpretations. In most cases you tend to select one interpretation, and this one is what ends up affecting your thoughts, your actions and most importantly the way you feel.

WHAT TO DO:

When you feel pain about an event due to your interpretation, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What aspects might I have overlooked?

2. What would I tell my best friend if they were in a similar situation?

3. What valuable lesson have I learned from this experience that will move me in a more positive direction?

4. How will this impact my life 5 years from now?

5. How can I breakdown the big problem into 4 smaller ones?

HAPPINESS CAN BE LEARNED: Creating new Neuro-Pathways in your brain will create new healthy habits.

3. Use a PRIMING mind-set.

Priming is a positive proactive tool to increase your happiness and well-being.

You are primed continually in every minute of your life. When you are exposed to a stimulus, your future behavior will be influenced without being aware of the guiding influence.

WHAT TO DO:

Create a positive environment around you by surrounding yourself with the following:

– Pictures of memorable moments

– Objects that hold meaning to you

– Inspirational Quotes

– Books that interest you

– Uplifting music

HAPPINESS CAN BE LEARNED: Create an environment that will prime you for positive interactions and actions.

4 Find meaning!

Victor E. Frankl, Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist, as well as a Holocaust survivor, stated that, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” We have the freedom to choose how to react to ANY situation.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ― Viktor E. Frankl

WHAT TO DO:

Look inward. Appreciate your inner core and all that?

A few ways you can find true meaning in everyday moments:

1. Create a simple task for yourself that brings you pleasure and strive to accomplish it.

2. Allow yourself to experience THIS moment fully. Open your heart and feel gratitude towards someone and/or something special in your life.

3. Look inward during stressful times. Appreciate your inner core and adopt the mentality that you have control over your attitude in any situation.

HAPPINESS CAN BE LEARNED: Finding true meaning in your life can unleash your mind-set and set you on a journey of true happiness.

5. Live life through your strengths.

A life lived through our strengths propels us forward. We can train our brains for positive outcomes by USING our strengths. Be honest and think about what makes YOU the unapologetic YOU the world needs. Everyone has strengths!

WHAT TO DO:

Identify your strengths:

1. Think about times in the past when you felt at your best. What strengths of yours helped make it so?

2. Ask others who are close to you where they feel your strengths lie. (You may be surprised)

3. Think about times when you focus on your tasks and you lose track of time.

Happiness can be learned: “Strengths do more than perform, they transform”

Say Yes TO ” HAPPINESS “

What is it that motivates you in life? What are the things
you THINK are making you happy, and what are the things that really make you
happy?

Are you able to observe yourself from time to time and see whether the things you chase after are really the things you want for yourself?

I think that most of us, want to want more than they want to have, because when they receive that which they were after, they go on to the next thing, and the next thing, and this is how most of us spend our lives, running after something that we think it is outside ourselves, believing that our happiness lies in things, in other people, in different places, etc., and we rarely or never, stop to observe ourselves and our behavior, we rarely or
never stop to think whether we are sane or insane for doing so.

It is never too late to return to yourself, never. I challenge you to do this.

I challenge you to start observing your thoughts, your desires, your feelings and behaviors, I challenge you to become the observer of your own live, and believe me, by doing so, you will discover so many new and incredible things about yourself, you will find out so many things about your real powers, about the meaning of life, and about the meaning of real happiness.

From my own experience, I will have to tell you that, whenever I see happiness as a selfish act, when I think that by going to a certain place, having a certain thing, etc. I will be happy, almost 100% of the time I am wrong.

What I have discover over the years, after doing so much introspection and observing myself and the many people around me, is that happiness is not a place you go to, happiness is not a person, happiness is not a dream you achieve, happiness just is. Is this simple.

We will find happiness the moment we stop to see the self as self, the moment we start to see ourselves as being one with the whole world.No matter where you are and no matter what you do, no matter how you look and no matter how much or less you have, etc., if you are not happy in that specific situation, if you are not happy with what you have and with who you are, you will not be happy if you change the environment., if you change your looks, your job, your partner and your friends. You may delude yourself into thinking otherwise, but in the end, you will go back to feeling the way you do in this exact moment, and you will discover that happiness is not outside yourself.

We don’t want to accept this because if we do, we will have to wake up and take responsibility for how we feel, for our actions and behaviors, we will have to take responsibility for our own lives, and it can be somehow challenging to do so.

For those people who are in this journey of self discovery and self mastery, as time goes by, as they will travel farther and farther away, they will discover what happiness is all about, and what really makes their heart sing, what really makes them glow, and they will discover that it is not money, it is not big houses and shinny cars, but rather having a
meaning, a purpose in life, larger than themselves, larger than life.

It is always about giving, about sharing what’s best about ourselves with others, because, when we do so, we travel to the most incredible places, we feel like we never felt before, and if somebody asks us to describe these states of beings, to put them into words, it will be impossible, because it is beyond that, it is beyond words.

Happiness is and will always be present within ourselves, and will come to surface the moment we decide to be true to ourselves, the moment we no longer think in terms of ME, I, MINE, but rather in terms of US and WE, knowing that we are all one, and that we are all together in this journey called life.

Happiness will not, and cannot be found as long as we see ourselves as being separate from everybody else, as being better and more special than everybody else, this is not what happiness is. Real happiness is about sharing, about giving, the best we got to those around us, and when we do so, we will inspire others to do the same, and this is how the whole world will be transformed; this will be the moment we will realize that if we want the world to be a happy place to live, will first have to be happy ourselves, and
by doings so, the whole world will be transformed.

Sooner or later, we will all discover this truth, it will all become very clear to us, and we will start to see things as they really  are, not as we are.

” Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured “

funny-anger-quotes-images-3-ee18a8cbBitterness is like cancer , it eats upon the host but Anger is like Fire ,it burns it all clean.

One of the unhealthiest emotions Human beings have is Anger . It destroys our ability to think clearly. 

A single word spoken in anger can leave an impression on a person’s heart that may remain for a long time, and has the ability to ruin the beauty of any relationship.

A famous sage once said, “How can there be peace on earth if the hearts of men are like volcanoes?”   

If a person is at  peace from within and is free from anger , only then can he live in harmony with others.

How  can we create that sense of peace within ourselves? 

It starts with the realization that we do have the choice to think and feel the way we want to. If we look at what it is that makes us angry we might discover there is nothing that has the power to make us feel this way.  We ourselves allow people  or situations to trigger our anger—

The anger is that emotion which come out in form of our reaction to any event or person . But because we are so used to that we react on everything thing in our surroundings. We don’t choose how we want to feel and  respond , we just react instantly and inappropriately, leaving ourselves with angry feelings.  

Have you ever heard someone saying: “I really hate it when you speak like that to me?” Or how about, “How many times do I have to tell you to do it like this?”  One lesson I have learned is that, how much we try we  can never control circumstances, people or situations, as they are constantly changing.  The only thing we can control is the way we choose to respond.  Only we can increase our capacity to tolerate; only we can develop our ability to understand; and only we can nurture our love for others regardless of whether one day they praise us and the next they defame us .

Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.

Modern-day life comes with a whole lot of challenges. In facing these we have should see every interaction within our world as part of one large drama or game. And in this drama, every single individual has their own unique part to play.  Rather  than spending our time keeping an eye on what others are doing, we can begin to use our energy to play our own part to the best of our ability. We cannot possess or own the behavior of others, because if we do so this  will ultimately lead to conflict.  Instead we need to practice the understanding that regardless of whatever action a person may be doing, according to their own part within the play there is some reason why they are behaving in that way.  Therefore we should try not to jump to conclusions too easily; and rather than trying to control other person’s behavior, we should focus on our own  energies and our  actions. 

What is so wrong in judging  others actions? 

There is a danger that if we become too concerned with their activity, we may begin to feel anger toward that person, which may lead to dislike for them.   We put them into some kind of box, and fix a label on them. Then whenever we come into contact with that person, we will see him or her in the light of their past mistake. But in doing this, we are effectively imprisoning them in their past actions.  However if we allow the person to grow out of their own mistake then, sooner or later, it is possible that person will change. 

This concept of life being a drama can help us to detach ourselves from what’s happening around us, and this detachment or space is of great help in learning not to make judgments so quickly about others.  If we create a small space, a healthy space between our self and the drama of life, we find that space acts like a buffer. Neither will we jump out and grab someone’s throat, nor will the drama of life be able to suddenly grab us .   

When we are angry, we have no self-control.  At that moment we are in a state of internal chaos, and the anger can be a very destructive force.  

It is often said that anger can be a useful thing.   People say, “Look at all the problems in the world, surely unless someone got angry about it nothing would happen?”   It reminds me of the story about an old man sitting by a river and talking to a group of his disciples. His hand was stretched out behind him and an insect came crawling along and bit him badly.  As it did so, it slipped and fell into the river.  This old man looked behind him and saw the insect struggling in the river, so he picked it up and placed it back on the ground.  A few minutes later, the same insect crawled over to his hand and bit him on the finger, and again slipped over and fell into the river.  The old man looked round, picked it up, and placed it back on the ground.  When this happened a third time, one of his disciples said to him, “Master why do you do this?  The insect bites you and yet you save it.  Why do you not let it drown and it then it won’t be able to bite you?” He replied “It is in the insect’s nature to bite, it is in my nature to save”.  Similarly, someone’s nature might be to criticize, or to backbite, or even to challenge us.  Yet that is completely out of our hands.  We can only do what it is that we have to do.  We can’t justify a negative action by saying, “Oh well, you do the same thing too.”   If we say that, then we are saying, “I will only grow and change when you decide to grow and change, it’s in your hands.”  But can growth ever happen like that?  If we wait for each other to change it is likely we will be waiting an extremely long time. 

Just as the form of water can be changed from solid to liquid to gas, so to the energy which was previously being used to express and feed anger, can also be changed to the force behind the expression of determination or courage instead.  Rather than being angry with someone to prove a point, we can learn to be assertive. Assertiveness contains respect for oneself, whereas anger shows respect for neither the self nor others.

Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it…Don’t allow his anger to become your anger

There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way


Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Normally, we look for happiness from external factors like objects, relationships, achievements(success),name/fame, power. Our belief system has created this dependency. This is mind conditioning from past experiences. This way we postpone happiness. Physical comfort, but mind in pain, happiness gone.

Physical discomfort, but mind peaceful, happiness is possible.

Very powerful, successful, wealthy, healthy, educated persons are unhappy. Persons without all this can be happy.We want to be happy depending on getting marks/grades, job, relationship, success, money,name/fame, car, house, behavior of others etc. These are just stimuli which create a response in the mind depending on our mind programming. We create thoughts and feelings, not the objects.Our reaction/response creates thoughts of happiness/unhappiness. Different persons respond differently to the same stimulus. Happiness without or irrespective of the stimulus is possible, if  we understand that we create the thoughts. We are the programmer of our life.

Problems and challenges will be there. To despair or deal with them is our choice. Failure/success not in my hand, our thoughts and feelings are in our hand.

For any incident reaction is automatic, response is by choice.It is not just reaching the destination that matters, it’s the quality of the journey that counts.

Destination/goals(marks/grades, job, position, relationship) are important, otherwise we become passive, directionless. The goals may take days, months, years. While performing the duty, we are not enjoying since we are anxious/stressful about the future. If  we see some threats, competition, we  try to manipulate, compromise on values and principles. This delays happiness because it creates anger,stress, anxiety during the journey. It takes a toll on health, relationships, mental peace. So, we have paid a heavy price for happiness. Painful journey. We are not just postponing happiness, we are creating unhappiness all the way. It multiplies because we are becoming emotionally weaker due to pains bruised further, easily hurt, irritated. Affects health.

Our priorities are only success, not family, friends, health, society, country.  Failure deplete energy, lowers self-esteem. We are not able to face others and ourselves.

Life is based on 4 factors: Physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual. Balance in all  is  required for happiness.

I Have To Be Happy First Practice this. Do not change response based on the nature of the stimulus. Be original. If courtesy is your quality, don’t change even if other person is rude. Because you like to be courteous. Just take one quality(courteous, humble, sweet, loving, happy) and stick to it no matter what(how, where, when).We take near and dear, poor, weaker ones for granted and are rude with them and sweet to even rude but powerful persons. Do good without expectations. Your reward, feeling good during action itself.

We pass the blame to our mind/ego. Our mind/ego is our responsibility. We can’t control our mind, but want to control others mind. Doing things simply as a duty makes both unhappy. Relationships are not just actions but these are energies exchanged during interaction. Duty is responsibility, but do it with happiness.

For duties today, our focus is always on action A, B,C, not on the state of mind during these actions.Studies/job is duty, but what is the feeling while doing it: calm, peaceful, happy, or worried, anxious,angry. The former is enjoyable, while the latter is tiresome, painful. Action with healthy emotions is beautiful, otherwise painful.

How to be emotionally healthy

We can’t make each other happy, We make ourselves happy. We think CGPA, degree, job, spouse, children,friends will make us happy. Even God can’t make you happy. We have temporary mind diversions to divert attention from emotional pain. It is like drugs.

 The solution is Just be aware of thoughts

Being natural(doing what we like) makes us happy. It requires least effort. Being natural is peace, love, happiness. But we must be aware of these natural qualities. It doesn’t take years to change mindset. Just one thought of awareness. There are so many triggers we face every day. It is not the trigger but the -ve reaction it creates within us that disturbs us. If we just accept/respect the triggers, then we are happy. Everyone has the same will power. It depends on how much we use it. Same with every good human quality. The tragedy is that we are not even aware of our original qualities. It is like we have fortune in the locker, but beg for money/happiness from others. First, we must know that we have a fortune in our locker, then we must make efforts to open it. It is in the mind, we have the key. Only we can open. Others can only guide.

Just one +ve thought and many -ve thoughts won’t work. Consistent +ve thoughts are required. Not just words, thoughts must be +ve. I(You) can do it. I have faith in myself(you). Tell yourself and others repeatedly. I can be happy. I have faith in myself.

Harmony between thoughts, words and action. Thought energy travels faster. Thoughts are energy, vibration. We can’t catch other’s thoughts, but we feel +ve/-ve vibrations.

Every human being is originally pure, affectionate, peaceful, blissful and powerful. Shift your focus from I want happiness, I want power, to I am happy, I am powerful. Share love,peace, happiness with all. +ve/-ve infections spread automatically.

Thinking is like water flowing. You can’t stop it, you can channelized it. We have a choice.

-ve/+ve energy affects everyone around us. It is like a perfume. Everyone smells it.

We produce 40-50 thousand thoughts per day , mostly without being aware of the quality. If you are a CEO of a company producing these many products and not even aware of the quality, what will happen to the company?

There are Four Types of Thoughts:

1. Pure, +ve, selfless, powerful, no expectations(no hurt).

2. Negative: Resentment, hatred, criticism, anger- Large no.

3. Necessary Thoughts(Neutral): These are about actions/duties

4. Waste Thoughts: About things not in my control(past and future). Large nos. Huge Wastage of time and energy. We don’t accept people and situations in the present moment. A person can get tired doing nothing(-ve and waste thoughts). He would have been less tired if he had played.

Psychiatrist tells us that 80 % of our thoughts are about past+15 % are about future. So in 95 % thoughts there is nothing +ve. There are 25-30 thoughts per minute, but we speak only 4-5 sentences/minute. It is not enough to have just good action or good words. Thoughts have far more influence. Every thought affects the entire system, every cell of the body. Many ailments are psychosomatic these days.

Think Believe. The Rest Will Follow 

Our original nature must be reflected in every role we play. Today, we are changing personality for every role. Hence, relations have become fragile. One ego talks to other. Original actor sleeping inside. Concentrate on your role, not others. Don’t write their script. It is wastage of time and energy. Write own script. At least you can implement that.

When we notice a tap running, we immediately close it. The same thing happens with mind when we are aware of the wastage of time and energy. The health of the body reflects the quality of thoughts. If someone cheats us and we  lose money, we are  not responsible for that loss. But if we  lose our peace, we are  responsible.  Anger is like a burning coal we want to throw at others. They may be unaffected, we surely are adversely affected.

Nurture pure, loving, forgiving thoughts. I don’t forgive others, I forgive myself.

AND SEE  HAPPINESS FLOATING IN YOUR LIFE ....

 

Step by Step Easy Rasmalai Recipe

Rasmalai  is a delicious and lip-smacking dessert made with homemade cottage cheese (paneer). It’s super yummy and has an incredible melt-in-your-mouth texture that will leave you craving for more! It’s egg-free and gluten-free too.The term Rasmalai is made up of two words – Ras+malai, where ‘ras’ means syrup or juice and ‘malai’ means cream. Together it creates a luscious treat that makes each and every bite of this rasmalai truly irresistible!!

If you are not familiar with this treat then let me first give you a heads up. Rasmalai is the Indian version of soft and spongy flattened paneer (cottage cheese) balls that are soaked in thickened saffron milk and garnished with silvered dry nuts.

Now, onto the recipe!

The first step that involves preparation of paneer balls is somewhat similar to rasgulla recipe. Soft and spongy paneer balls are made just the way rasgullas are made.

Paneer balls are not difficult to make; it just takes a little bit of time, practice, and patience. Once you have mastered the art of making crack-free paneer balls, I’m confident that the next steps will be easy for you.
INGREDIENTS
INGREDIENTS FOR PANEER

2 Litre Full cream milk
1/4 cup Lemon Juice or vinegar

RASMALAI SYRUP

600 ml Full cream milk (about 2.5 cups)
1.25 cups Condensed / Milk Powder
1/3 cup Sugar
3 tablespoon Thinly sliced dry nuts (almonds,pistachios)
1/8 teaspoon Saffron strands
1/2 teaspoon Eliachi Powder (Cardamon Powder)

SUGAR SYRUP

2 cup Water
1 cup Sugar
1 teaspoon Rose water or Kewra essence
METHOD
MAKING PANEER

Boil milk in a heavy bottom pan. TIP – Always use full cream milk to make paneer. The fat content in full milk makes the best paneer.
When the milk becomes frothy and bubbles start to form on top that’s the time to add vinegar/lemon juice. TIP – Wait for milk to get bubbly before adding the acid. This will result in perfect chenna/paneer.
Pour in vinegar/lemon juice.
Slowly mix vinegar/lemon juice in the milk and milk will curdle.
When the whey/liquid in curdle milk turns to pale green in color, take the pan off the flame.
Meanwhile line a strainer with muslin cloth.
Quickly strain paneer. TIP – Letting it sit will result in hard and chewy rasmalai.
Wash paneer under cold water to get rid of vinegar/lemon juice taste. TIP – This will wash away all the taste of acid from paneer.
Squeeze paneer and allow the water to drain.
You can also hang paneer/chenna for 20- 30 minutes until the water stops dripping. TIP – This step is important. If water is not drained well from paneer, rasmalai pieces will start to disintegrate in sugar syrup.

Remove paneer from cloth. Paneer should feel crumbly but moist.

KNEADING AND SHAPING PANEER

Start kneading the paneer like a dough.
Use your whole palm and fingers to knead paneer. It will take somewhere between 9-10 minutes to knead it into a smooth dough. TIP – Knead paneer with your hands. Have tried kneading it in a food processor but the result was not satisfactory.
Take paneer dough in your hand.
Squeeze it tight. It should not feel sticky at all. In fact it should feel creamy and roll smoothly in between your palms. TIP – Squeeze and press in between your palms couple of times before rolling it like a ball. This will prevent cracks.
Gently press in between your palms and flatten the balls. Set it aside and repeat the process with rest of the paneer.
Combine water and sugar in a pan. Add essence of your choice. Bring it a boil.
Slowly add flattened paneer pieces to the syrup. Do not overcrowd the pan.TIP – Make sure there is enough room for the paneer balls to expand during boiling. Leave some space for the pieces to float. Reduce the flame to MEDIUM LOW.
Slowly the pieces will start to float up.
When all the pieces float to the surface..
Cover the pan with the lid and let it simmer for 3-4 minutes on a medium low flame.
Flatten paneer pieces will swell in size. Take it off the flame and allow it to cool.
When comfortable to touch, take a flattened paneer piece and squeeze out all the syrup. Press gently.
When all the syrup is pressed out, paneer pieces will come back to its original shape. Set it aside.

PREPARING THE SYRUP

Onto the final step. Assemble ingredients.
In a heavy bottomed pan, add milk and bring it to a boil. Add in sugar, saffron strands and milk powder / Condensed Milk.
Whisk until well blended.
Continue boiling at a medium flame stirring continuously. Stir in thinly sliced nuts and mix. Keep stirring and boil the milk for 20-25 minutes. Milk will thicken to a desired consistency – neither to thick nor too liquid.
Carefully drop in flattened paneer balls.
Allow the flatten paneer balls to simmer in hot syrup for 1-2 minutes.
Take it off the flame, cover and let the paneer pieces soak in the syrup.

Transfer it to a big bowl and allow it to chill. Tastes better when chilled.